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Top 15 of the Best Jane Austen Quotes About Love

To celebrate Jane Austen’s life and her incredible talent, I’ve gathered fifteen wonderful Jane Austen quotes about love.


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Jane Austen’s six completed novels may not always be categorized as romance novels, but she had an undeniable influence on the romance genre as we understand it today. The least of which was happily-ever-after endings and cerebral romantic connections between equals.

photo of Jane Austen

Now, Jane Austen may have never married, but she had a strong understanding of love and powerful observational skills.

So, read Austen’s eloquent words (some offering useful advice), and enjoy these memorable Jane Austen love quotes about marriage, courtship, etc. May her words inspire each of us to love more and believe in real romance with these famous and romantic Jane Austen quotes.



Emma book cover; jane austen quotes about love

1. Emma on Marriage

“A woman is not to marry a man merely because she is asked, or because he is attached to her, and can write a tolerable letter.”

Emma Woodhouse, Emma
Emma quote by Jane Austen; quotes about love
Emma (2020). Photo: Focus Features

As misguided as Emma is in her assumptions and matchmaking, she’s not wholly wrong in her heart in this Jane Austen quote. Emma longs for more equality in relationships and sees the unjustness of men’s expectations at that time!

And the advice still rings true. You don’t have to say yes or like someone merely because they like you.


2. Emma Has an Epiphany

“Why was it so much worse that Harriet should be in love with Mr Knightley than Frank Churchill? Why was the evil so dreadfully increased by Harriet’s having some hope of a return? It darted through her with the speed of an arrow that Mr Knightley must marry no one but herself!”

Jane Austen, Emma
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Emma (2009). Photo: BBC

Everything in Emma leads to this epiphany of truth by Emma! It’s funny to read and also brilliantly written by Jane Austen.


3. Mr. Knightley Gets Romantic

“If I loved you less, I might be able to talk about it more.”

Mr. Knightley, Emma
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Emma (2009). Photo: BBC

Mr. Knightley’s declaration is utterly romantic. Ms. Austen sure knew how to write fictional men.


Mansfield Park Book Cover

4. Edmund Pays Fanny a Romantic Compliment.

“He will make you happy, Fanny; I know he will make you happy; But you will make him everything.”

Edmund, Mansfield Park
Edmund quote from Mansfield Park; jane austen quotes about love
Mansfield Park (1999). Photo: Miramax

Edmund is difficult to root for sometimes, and while he’s kind of giving Fanny bad advice (to marry Henry Crawford – a man of questionable character) here, he’s also telling Fanny how wonderful she truly is.

5. Fanny on Equality in Love

“I think it ought not to be set down as certain that a man must be acceptable to every woman he may happen to like himself.”

Fanny Price, Mansfield Park

Like in Emma, Fanny also points out the absurdity of men’s expectations for women to automatically like a man who happens to like them.


northanger abbey book cover

6. On Disappointed Love

“Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love.”

Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey

We’ve all had our hearts broken at one time or another. And in those times, what greater advice is there than turning to our friends for support? Friendship helps us heal.

7. Marriage and Dancing

“And such is your definition of matrimony and dancing. Taken in that light certainly, their resemblance is not striking; but I think I could place them in such a view. — You will allow, that in both, man has the advantage of choice, woman only the power of refusal; that in both, it is an engagement between man and woman, formed for the advantage of each; and that when once entered into, they belong exclusively to each other till the moment of its dissolution; that it is their duty, each to endeavour to give the other no cause for wishing that he or she had bestowed themselves elsewhere, and their best interest to keep their own imaginations from wandering towards the perfections of their neighbours, or fancying that they should have been better off with anyone else.”

Henry Tilney, Northanger Abbey
Northanger Abbey Henry Tilney quote
Northanger Abbey (2007). Photo: ITV

Henry speaks to Catherine in this scene as they dance together at a ball and compares dancing and marriage by using an apt analogy.

RELATED: Classic Romantic Moment: Northanger Abbey’s Mr. Tilney and Catherine Banter At A Ball

This passage also reveals more of Mr. Tilney’s character and that he likes Catherine. He alludes to faithfulness in a marriage and the importance of not having a wandering eye!

Tilney is both intelligent and flirtatious, making him a fun Romantic Hero to read.


Persuasion Book Cover

8. How to Write a Love Letter

“I can listen no longer in silence. I must speak to you by such means as are within my reach. You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope…I have loved none but you.”

Captain Wentworth, Persuasion
Persuasion quote; jane austen quotes about love
Persuasion (2007). Photo: ITV

While this is only a snippet of Wentworth’s romantic letter to Anne, it’s still enough to make you want to believe in true love.

The letter may be one of the most passionate and swoon-worthy letters in all of literature. Who wants Darcy when there’s Captain Wentworth?

9. On Devotion

“A man does not recover from such a devotion of the heart to such a woman! He ought not; he does not.”

Captain Wentworth, Persuasion
Persuasion; Jane Austen Quotes about love
Persuasion (1995). Photo: BBC

More Captain Wentworth swooniness…


Pride and Prejudice book cover

10. Only Marry For Love

“Oh, Lizzy! do anything rather than marry without affection.”

Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
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Pride and Prejudice (2005). Photo: Focus Features

Through the words of Jane to Elizabeth, Jane Austen’s own words of advice shine through. Let’s all take her good advice: never marry without affection. 

11. A Proposal Gone Bad

“In vain have I struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.”

Mr. Darcy, Pride And Prejudice
Pride and Prejudice quote; jane austen quotes about love
Pride and Prejudice (2005). Photo: Focus Features

How not to propose…

12. Follow Your Heart

“Her heart did whisper that he had done it for her.”

 Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

This is the moment Elizabeth begins to recognize Mr. Darcy’s Grand Gesture. She also begins to hope that Darcy’s feelings for her have not changed. He paid for Lydia’s wedding to Wickham, and in doing so, helps save her family’s reputation.

RELATED: 15 of the Best Pride and Prejudice Adaptations And Movies, Ranked

Of course, Elizabeth then begins to doubt Darcy’s reasons. But the “whisper” in her heart is quite romantic! Paying attention to your heart is also good advice. The truth lies there.

13. Mr. Darcy’s Affections

“You are too generous to trifle with me. If your feelings are still what they were last April, tell me so at once. My affections and wishes are unchanged; but one word from you will silence me on this subject for ever.”

Mr. Darcy, Pride and Prejudice
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Pride and Prejudice (2005). Photo: Focus Features

How could I not include Mr. Darcy’s second (and better) proposal? 


sense and sensibility book cover

14. Elinor’s Hidden Emotions

“I do not attempt to deny,” said she, “that I think very highly of him–that I greatly esteem, that I like him.”

Elinor, Sense and Sensibility
Sense and Sensibility Elinor quote; jane austen quotes about love
Sense and Sensibility (1995). Photo: Sony Pictures Releasing

Here, Elinor downplays how much she likes Edward, so as not to instill hope and expectations in her mother and Marianne’s minds. But underneath all that reserve lies deep feelings. Not everyone expresses their feelings outwardly.

However, Elinor’s pent-up emotions do eventually rise to the surface. When Edward reveals he’s not married like she thought, she bursts into tears of joy and leaves the room, showing her pent-up feelings to Edward. Of course, they marry, and everything works out in the end.  

15. Never Love Halfway

“Marianne could never love by halves; and her whole heart became, in time, as much devoted to her husband, as it had once been to Willoughby.”

Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility
Sense and Sensibility - Jane Austen Quotes about love pin
Sense and Sensibility (1995). Photo: Sony Pictures Releasing

Sometimes the best love comes “in time.” Marianne is a wonderful example of loving another person with her whole heart. We often forget that love should be a verb. You “love” someone else. You sacrifice and give to another person.

By loving, Marianne overcomes her broken heart and helps heal the hurt and brokenness in both herself and Colonel Brandon. Marianne loves in a way that some may construe as foolish, but really once she matures, the way she loves is something to be admired.

What are your favorite Jane Austen quotes about love? Do you have a favorite movie adaptation of each book that best captures quotes by Jane Austen? Let me know in the comments!

Featured image credit: Pride and Prejudice (BBC), Emma (BBC), and Sense and Sensibility (Sony Pictures).

Jane austen quotes pinterest image with a picture of Becoming Jane.
Becoming Jane. Photo: Miramax


By on July 21st, 2020

About Amber Topping

Amber works as a writer and digital publisher full-time and fell in love with stories and imagination at an early age. She has a Humanities and Film Degree from BYU, co-created The Silver Petticoat Review, contributed as a writer to various magazines, and has an MS in Publishing from Pace University, where she received the Publishing Award of Excellence and wrote her thesis on transmedia, Jane Austen, and the romance genre. Her ultimate dreams are publishing books, writing and producing movies, traveling around the world, and forming a creative village of talented storytellers trying to change the world through art.

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4 thoughts on “Top 15 of the Best Jane Austen Quotes About Love”

  1. I love this one from Persuasion

    « All the privilege I claim for my own sex (it is not a very enviable one: you need not covet it), is that of loving longest, when existence or when hope is gone!« 

  2. #12. “Her heart did whisper that he had done it for her.” —Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

    Whenever someone asks me for my favorite Austen line, that’s the one. It’s perfect. All the swoonworthy angst, discovery, and maybe even regret rolled into one.


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